How to teach children of Michelle Obama's parents

His father was a plumber and his mother was a homemaker, both of them didn't go to college but their two children graduated from the most prestigious schools in America.

Two years before the release of the autobiography "Becoming" (Mature), former first lady Michelle Obama said she received good education from her parents from an early age.

"My parents allowed their children to freely express their views and do what they wanted. So I grew up with confidence, courage, and courage to face all difficulties," Michelle Obama wrote in "Becoming." ".

Michelle Obama's family when she was young. Photo: ES.

The book later sold 5 million copies worldwide and ranked first on Amazon's best seller list at the time. From the daughter's story, Michelle Obama's parenting method also became famous.

Education is financial management, teaching children how to "invest"

Michelle's family is not rich, and because she is of African descent, she is sometimes discriminated against. They live in a small house in a working-class neighborhood in Chicago. But her parents did not give this reason to surrender, they spent a lot of money investing education for their two children.

In the father's view, no matter how difficult the family must still have small savings. "Not for parents to care for the elderly, but to invest in the education of their children when necessary," Michelle Obama wrote.

When Michelle's older brother enters college, there are two options that leave him wondering. One is that universities get full scholarships, which is good news for poor families. Two are famous Princeton universities but don't have scholarships, but it's the year-long brother.

Knowing her son's concerns, Michelle's parents said, "You don't need to worry about your parents. Just choose the school you want."

The youngest daughter, Michelle, is equally invested with her brother.

In high school, due to her excellent academic performance, Michelle was on the list of short-term study in Paris. But she knew that going abroad would be very expensive and unwilling to put her parents under pressure of money, burying her studies abroad.

For some reason, the parents knew, actively told her: "Anyway, I have to go to school. Studying abroad will give me broadening knowledge and vision, which is a rare opportunity".

Michelle's parents never feel expensive when they spend money on education. They have done everything they can to support their children to attend prestigious schools and to have a successful life later.

In addition to financial investments, parents' spiritual investments in their children also started when Michelle was a child.

Walking her children to school every day, Michelle's mother often takes her to the library, and they read books together.

The books brought more knowledge to her than her peers. Therefore at school, Michelle is full of confidence and this spirit has accompanied her throughout her life.

Michelle's brother has been playing basketball since childhood. In order to encourage his son to jump higher, the father put a coin in the door every day, where he had to try hard to reach his brother.

Michelle Obama at the graduation ceremony at Harvard Law School. Photo: ES.

Parents should let their children know that they are important

Michelle once said, on the path of development, the most profound educational method of parents is to convey the message: "You are important".

One morning, Michelle, who had never liked eggs, asked her mother, "Why do we have to eat eggs every morning?" This small question triggered a whole family discussion about protein.

In the discussion, Michelle, who was in elementary school, suggested: "Peanut butter can also replace protein". The mother thinks and tells her child to revisit the idea of ​​only eating eggs for protein. From then on, Michelle's breakfast was a piece of peanut butter spread bread and no eggs.

Children wonder what, even the smallest but always seriously answered by parents. They always make Michelle feel at home that she is an important, caring and loving member.

"Being important doesn't mean being pampered or having too many expectations from your parents. In a family, just an equal space where a child's voice and opinion can be heard," Michelle Obama writes in Becoming.

Being a good parent needs to withdraw in time

Although Michelle's parents take children seriously, when they have personal problems, they do not intervene too deeply but let them learn how to solve problems independently.

"Because my parents think that children grow up day by day and cannot be children forever," the former first lady said.

Whenever Michelle goes on a rampage and gets home in the middle of the night, instead of punishing her like many other parents, Michelle's parents talk to their children and discuss the most appropriate time to go home. "Mom and Dad just give suggestions, do what you feel is right and enough," the mother said.

This educational approach allows children to learn to be responsible for words and deeds and to plan for their own lives. So "withdrawing in time" is when parents learn to let their children learn to be independent.

Michelle Obama believes that she is always strong and confident because of her family's early childhood education. Photo: ES.

When Michelle was in elementary school beaten by a boy in the classroom, she was scared to cry throughout the class that day. After her mother found out, she immediately rushed to school. She told her daughter, "This boy hit me not because of me, but because of his bullying personality. You have to let him know how strong he is."

Mom's words made Michelle learn to rise. She was no longer afraid of being bullied in school, but willing to protect herself against the stronger.

This personality also follows Michelle until later when her husband, former President Barack Obama ran for election and faced a lot of different controversies. At this time, Michelle stood side by side with her husband, responding to disrespectful words. "The strong confidence of my wife plays a very important role in my entire presidential process," admitted the first black president of the United States.

At the end of the chapter about her childhood and her parents, Michelle wrote: "Each family's education style is never the same, it is important which way is best suited to their child. loving and respecting children is a must for parents to have mature children ".